I struggle with enough-ness. I realize that’s not really a word… but to me, whether or not it’s in Webster’s doesn’t make it any less real.
I couldn’t sleep the other night. I imagined what it would feel like to be good enough for the people around me. How would dating be different? How would work be different? What could I accomplish if I wasn’t limited by the paralyzing insecurities about my body and my personality.
I imagined how great it would feel to fall for someone without the paranoia of being ditched for someone else, or how it would be to share my thoughts in a meeting without the hedge words, “maybe if we” or “i think.”
It would feel incredible.
What it would take for me to feel like I am enough? A certain weight? A certain wardrobe? A knight in shining armor? Sadly, no. I realized that even if all of those things were perfect and attainable, I’d still struggle with insecurities. And then came the break through…
Being enough isn’t a feeling. It’s isn’t some sort of life achievement. It’s not a gift that someone bestows upon you. Being enough is a personal decision.
When you decide that despite your insecurities, you’re going to go after the cute guy, conquer your presentation in front of the executive team, and take the world head on… you’ve made the decision that you are enough.
Being enough doesn’t mean that you’re perfect. We should all know by now that the never-ending road to perfection isn’t paved with happiness. Being enough is realizing that you have talents, you have a purpose. You have ground beneath your feet, you have air in your lungs, and you have so much potential.
After having these realizations, I made it a personal goal to focus more on creating and uplifting instead of trying to measure up to some of the unrealistic standards I set for myself. I’ve realized lately that I feel valued when step out of my comfort zone to be there for someone who needs me. And that’s an incredible feeling.
The world needs you to set aside your petty obsessions with yourself and live your life. Make some sort of effort to focus your energy on people around you.
What would life be like if you weren’t limited by the voice in your head telling you you’re not good enough? What would you do? Well, darling… It’s time to get out of your own way and find out.